How to Regain Confidence After Being Cheated on Because of Sexual Dysfunctions 

How to Regain Confidence After Being Cheated on Because of Sexual Dysfunctions 


Dr. Thomas Stock, MBChB (Hon) MSc.

Have you ever been cheated on? Getting cheated on is the ultimate form of betrayal in a relationship. More so for men who were cheated on because of their sexual dysfunctions like premature ejaculation (PE) or erectile dysfunction (ED).  

If you’ve been cheated on because of your bedroom issues, keep in mind that this is not the end for you. It is the beginning of a new and better chapter of your life.  

The first thing you need to do is regain your confidence and emerge a better man. In this article, you will learn everything you need to know on how to regain confidence after being cheated on. 

Try to accept the situation 

Denial is the first stage of grief, but it shouldn’t be the last.  

Eventually, it would be best if you moved on to acceptance — acknowledging that this has happened to you. Remember that having PE and ED is not your choice, and your partner’s infidelity is not your fault at all. The situation says more about them than about you. You may have indirectly denied their sexual needs because of your health challenges, but their decision to cheat was something you had no control over. 

No matter how much it hurts to get cheated on because of your erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation, it would be best if you accepted it, as it’s all in the past. Process your emotions, little by little, and be sure that friends and family members surround you. Their love and support can help you as you grieve. 

Rediscover your self-worth 

It’s time to rediscover your self-worth. Reflect on your values. Remember that your erectile dysfunction or premature ejaculation does not define who you are.  

Show some self-love by keeping your boundaries intact. If your partner does something that doesn’t sit well with you, communicate with them. Self-worth is usually tied to your boundaries. What kind of treatment is okay with you? What kind of love is acceptable? Once you’ve set your boundaries, you can make relationship decisions that are more aligned with your happiness and well-being. 

Rediscover your passions 

Erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation can make you lose your confidence even in some areas of your life, not only in relationships. If you’ve been cheated on due to ED and PE, focusing your energy on things that you know can make you happy is a positive form of distraction. 

Do amazing things that you can do despite your sexual dysfunction. It can be playing sports, creating art, working out, studying a new subject, or even excelling at work. You’ll regain your confidence along the way, and in no time, get over the heartbreak or perhaps discover a new love. 

Rebuild trust, communication, & intimacy 

When you’ve been cheated on, separation or divorce is not always the sole next move or solution. Kids may be involved in the situation, and you can’t simply leave the relationship because you love your partner and family no matter what. 

If you’re married and not looking to separate, establish an open and honest line of communication with your partner. Open up about your feelings and how everything that has happened affected you. It’s going to be difficult, but trying is your best option. 

Start rebuilding trust through transparency and accountability. Listen to your partner’s side of the story. If needed, go to couples therapy.  

If you’re open to rekindling your intimacy despite past mistakes, explore new activities that you and your partner can enjoy. Examples are getting a couples’ massage or going on a relaxing trip away from home to open your heart for forgiveness and rekindle that romance. You can also look for a new hobby that the two of you can enjoy to restore the bond. 

Cultivate confidence by treating ED and PE 

Regaining confidence can be challenging, but it is doable. The most important thing is to have the will to overcome your PE and ED. This means seeing a doctor. Start by checking if you actually have ED or PE. Once diagnosed, seek quality treatment that’s customised based on your health profile. 

The form of treatment your doctor will recommend depends on the root cause of your PE or ED. For example, if your PE is caused by your poor body image, you need to stick to a rigorous exercise regimen to bring your weight down to normal levels. A nutritionist, along with a general physician, can help you develop a diet plan that will help you improve your health, too. 

The Men’s Health Clinic (MHC) offers a comprehensive treatment plan based on your health profile. We have licensed doctors, mental health experts, sex and relationship counsellors, and nutritionists in the team who can come up with a customised plan to effectively treat ED and PE and target its cause. 

Book a FREE consultation with MHC for customised treatments for male bedroom issues like erectile dysfunction and premature ejaculation. 

Invest in your mental health 

Last but not least, address any mental health issues that may have transpired because of the trauma of being cheated on.  

Relationships are psychological in nature. They are built based on each person’s psyche, beliefs, and values. So, it’s only fitting to treat any relationship issue as an emotional challenge, giving it the attention and care it deserves.  

Take the time to process your emotions, seek therapy or counselling if needed, and prioritise self-care to heal and move forward in a healthy way. 


Knowing how to regain confidence after being cheated on is crucial for your emotional well-being and future relationships. By addressing its emotional impact, seeking support when needed, and taking steps to rebuild trust in yourself and others, you can gradually heal and move forward with confidence. When you work on regaining your confidence even after being cheated on, you can improve your sex life as a bonus. 

Do you want to discuss further your experience of being cheated on while dealing with sexual dysfunctions like ED and PE? The Men’s Health Clinic (MHC) is a telehealth clinic that provides comprehensive services relating to men’s well-being. While we mainly provide treatments for bedroom issues like ED or PE, we also have mental health experts who can help you navigate the emotional challenges that may arise from experiences like being cheated on. Feel free to reach out to us for a confidential consultation to explore how we can support you in both your physical and emotional well-being. 

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