Do you feel like you’re someone that is a notch below others? That lack of self-confidence and low assessment of self-worth could be what’s holding you back from enjoying the rest of your life. That doesn’t have to be the case, because we know you’re capable of greatness! In this article, we’re going to explore the nature and cause of insecurity among men, and how you can reclaim your confidence and self-worth.
Insecurity among men can be caused by many factors, but most of it can be associated with perceived shortcomings in different aspects in life. Physical traits such as strength and appearance have always been used to measure a man’s worth, with stronger and more conventionally attractive men viewed in a more positive light. Even in bed, the ability to last longer in bed is a big confidence booster while suffering from premature ejaculation can deal a major blow to a man’s self-worth.
Social status is also a major cause of insecurity, as someone who holds more wealth and authority is viewed as superior to those who don’t. Some would also be valued by the number of prominent people in their network. This is especially common among people who work in corporate, where the “rat race” can be very frustrating.
While it’s common for men to “roll with the punches,” insecurity can have a serious effect on the different aspects of men’s health. Common consequences of insecurity include becoming indecisive and anxious about taking on new tasks. However, more serious cases could also cause psychological issues such as depression and stress.
Insecurity can also take a toll on a man’s view of his own masculinity. This can lead to problems such as erectile disfunction, which in turn affects his interactions with his partner. Even worse, insecurity can also lead to increased aggression towards other people or even towards themselves.
One thing you must keep in mind is that you have the power to decide things for yourself. No other person in the world will be able to improve the way you see yourself unless you are willing to accept your own greatness. That said, being more accepting of that fact is easier if you can change your perspective on a few things:
Okay, you’re probably thinking that this is just about giving in to social pressure, but that’s completely the opposite of what we’re trying to achieve. YOU get to decide on what looks great. Whenever you’re working towards a target weight, trying a new haircut, or shopping around for clothes, don’t worry too much about what others think.
Think about changes that bring you more personal satisfaction. Instead of going for what is popular, go for something that you feel would be a better expression of yourself. The moment you start valuing your own tastes, the easier it will be to remind yourself that you are in control of things.
Because a big part of feeling insecure comes from being unable to do things, trying out a new hobby could be your key to realizing your greatness. Yes, you read that right; hobbies are more than just a way to kill time. For example, learning a new sport is also a great way to be physically healthier, while arts and crafts can help you discover that you have a knack for creativity.
Picking up a hobby is also a great way to expand your network. Hobby-based communities tend to gather like-minded individuals, which provides plenty of potential to discover and nurture relationships that you can be comfy with.
If your insecurity mostly comes from frustrations or lack of progress at work, then perhaps a career change is in order. You should work for yourself, not for the sake of getting more work. Evaluate yourself and see if your current skills can be applied to something you’ll find more fulfilling. If you want to shift to a new career, but you’re not quite ready yet, you can prepare yourself by picking up new skills.
Of course, you shouldn’t forget about work-life balance. By valuing your own time, you’re taking control of your own life. You no longer let stress and pressure bully you into thinking you’re less than what you are. Don’t think of jobs as working for “The Man.” Instead, think of work as a means to improve your life as your own man!
One of the most important things to know about getting your self-confidence back is that you don’t have to do this alone. Seeking help from others is not a sign of weakness; it’s a sign that you acknowledge your ability to work with other people towards a goal.
Remember the previous points we talked about? You have more work-life balance, you can spend more time with friends that you met from your new hobby, and your new perspective on your image will make you more comfortable about expressing yourself. Even seeking professional help will no longer be something to worry about because you know something like men’s health is more important than trying to live up to somebody else’s notions on what’s “manly” enough.
Let’s be realistic here – reclaiming your self-confidence and worth as man isn’t the easiest thing to do. However, it is far from impossible, especially if you take the right approach. We hope the pointers we mentioned above helped point you to the right direction and bring you closer to the realization that you are a great man, because that’s what you are!
Reach out to us at MHC if you need any assistance. At MHC, we're all about upholding a comprehensive approach in addressing men’s health issues such as ED and PE. We have mental health experts in the team to guide you through this journey to healing. You can also answer our questionnaire so we can assess your health profile and come up with a treatment profile that is tailored to your needs.
With one of our Senior Patient Coordinators who can provide you with more information regarding bespoke treatment options.